01 6 / 2014
Anonymous said: Hey, I'm a gay trans guy top with bad bottom dysphoria, as in, don't go near it. My partner is a queer cis guy. The only thing that doesn't give me dysphoria is fucking him with my detachable cock which doesn't make me orgasm. Any ideas on methods I can use (cock rings that might help, positions where the detachable dick feels more like an extension of my micro dick underneath) so I can get off while doing this? Btw I despise being penetrated so that is not an option. Thanks.
Oh, man… this is the million-dollar question, isn’t it? I have a few suggestions, mostly equipment-related; if anyone else has things that have worked for them, please do chime in.
There are a lot of ways to combine a small vibe (like a bullet vibe) with a detachable cock to give you a little more stimulation:
- Getting a harness that has a pocket to hold a vibe, like this one, or sewing a pocket into a harness that you already have.
- Using a detachable cock that has an opening at the base to insert a bullet vibe. Here’s one example — there are a ton out there, and many are kind of stylized, but can be combined with a cyberskin penis extender like this one to look and feel more realistic. I’ve also heard of people drilling or melting (with a hot screwdriver) a hole into the base of a detachable cock that they already own and like, if you’re crafty and the thought doesn’t make you wince.
- Adding in a vibrating cock ring. Be careful about the design you choose — I’d recommend going to a store to check some out in person if possible, to find one that’s flexible and has the vibrating part farther away from the body of the ring so that you have more room to adjust it to hit the right spot. The “Love Bump" is a pair of realistic balls that attach to the base of a detachable cock, like a cock ring, and hold a bullet vibe. If you already have a ball-less detachable cock that you like, this could be a good add-on to give you some more stimulation.
Some detachable cocks come with textured bases that can stimulate your micro dick — for example, the Harmony strap-on has an angled, ridged base. (It also has a hole to insert a bullet vibe.) This is another option that can be made to look more realistic by adding a cyberskin penis extender. If you give it a try, don’t forget to put some lube on the wearer side!
Finally, picking a good harness can really affect the sensation that you have when you’re fucking your partner. Some people find that harnesses with straps that run between the legs, or harnesses that can be converted to one-strap (like this one), add some extra friction and pressure that feels right. It can also help to pick a harness that lets you adjust the height of your detachable cock — if it’s sitting over your pubic bone, it may be too high up to really transfer sensation to your other dick.
26 5 / 2014
angryqueerliveshere said: Hi! I'm currently trying to gather material for a book I want to write about growing up trans* and living in a society with strict gender roles. I was hoping to interview other trans people so I wasn't telling my story. Would you be ok with posting this on your blog and anyone interested can message me on my blog? Thanks!
25 4 / 2014
Anonymous said: Hi, i just wanted to let you know that the link to the pdf form of the zine is currently broken D:
Thanks for the heads-up! Here’s a working link: Transcending Anatomy (pdf)
For the record, the pdf of Transcending Anatomy has been uploaded to a few different online zine libraries over the years and most them are no longer functional, so there are many dead links floating around. If anyone knows of stable sites that would be good places to upload a copy of the zine — particularly sites with a queer/trans focus — please let me know.
24 3 / 2014
Anonymous said: Hi I want to quote your zine "transcending Anatomy" in something I am writing and so wanted to credit you - but don't see your name anywhere. Do you prefer to be anonymous? I thank you so much for your work. All good wishes, Caffyn Jesse
I prefer for the zine to be credited just as Transcending Anatomy, but if you need to cite a specific individual as the creator, you can use the name Eli Aaron. Thanks!
10 2 / 2014
Cis people - pansexuality is not defined as “men, women, and trans people”. Trans people are not an inherently separate gender category. If you really want to describe your sexuality in this way, I recommend “men, women, and nonbinary people”. Or, you could just say “all people”. Separating binary trans people from binary cis people is transphobic and gross and just don’t do it.