07 7 / 2014

anarcholesbianism:

Hi! Are you a CAMAB transfeminine person who’s sick of only ever seeing resources for CAFAB trans people on your dash? Are you just coming out to yourself and struggling with Peak Dysphoria? Are you a CAFAB trans person who wants to support the people above? Then here’s a post for you!

This is a…

01 6 / 2014

Anonymous said: Hey, I'm a gay trans guy top with bad bottom dysphoria, as in, don't go near it. My partner is a queer cis guy. The only thing that doesn't give me dysphoria is fucking him with my detachable cock which doesn't make me orgasm. Any ideas on methods I can use (cock rings that might help, positions where the detachable dick feels more like an extension of my micro dick underneath) so I can get off while doing this? Btw I despise being penetrated so that is not an option. Thanks.

Oh, man… this is the million-dollar question, isn’t it? I have a few suggestions, mostly equipment-related; if anyone else has things that have worked for them, please do chime in.

There are a lot of ways to combine a small vibe (like a bullet vibe) with a detachable cock to give you a little more stimulation:

  • Getting a harness that has a pocket to hold a vibe, like this one, or sewing a pocket into a harness that you already have.
  • Using a detachable cock that has an opening at the base to insert a bullet vibe. Here’s one example — there are a ton out there, and many are kind of stylized, but can be combined with a cyberskin penis extender like this one to look and feel more realistic. I’ve also heard of people drilling or melting (with a hot screwdriver) a hole into the base of a detachable cock that they already own and like, if you’re crafty and the thought doesn’t make you wince.
  • Adding in a vibrating cock ring. Be careful about the design you choose — I’d recommend going to a store to check some out in person if possible, to find one that’s flexible and has the vibrating part farther away from the body of the ring so that you have more room to adjust it to hit the right spot. The “Love Bump" is a pair of realistic balls that attach to the base of a detachable cock, like a cock ring, and hold a bullet vibe. If you already have a ball-less detachable cock that you like, this could be a good add-on to give you some more stimulation.

Some detachable cocks come with textured bases that can stimulate your micro dick — for example, the Harmony strap-on has an angled, ridged base. (It also has a hole to insert a bullet vibe.) This is another option that can be made to look more realistic by adding a cyberskin penis extender. If you give it a try, don’t forget to put some lube on the wearer side!

Finally, picking a good harness can really affect the sensation that you have when you’re fucking your partner. Some people find that harnesses with straps that run between the legs, or harnesses that can be converted to one-strap (like this one), add some extra friction and pressure that feels right. It can also help to pick a harness that lets you adjust the height of your detachable cock — if it’s sitting over your pubic bone, it may be too high up to really transfer sensation to your other dick.

26 5 / 2014

angryqueerliveshere said: Hi! I'm currently trying to gather material for a book I want to write about growing up trans* and living in a society with strict gender roles. I was hoping to interview other trans people so I wasn't telling my story. Would you be ok with posting this on your blog and anyone interested can message me on my blog? Thanks!

Sure thing!

04 5 / 2014

engineer—cat:

transcending-anatomy:

Someone sent in this great illustrated submission that may be helpful for some trans women and MAAB folks who are dealing with dysphoria, and for their partners.

[more in the original; I’ve cut it down for space - engineer—cat]

(BTW, an instructional video is currently in the works! I’ll keep you posted.)

I made a video!

As far as I know, the instructional video promised above never happened. At any rate, I never found it. So I decided to make one. If you know me outside of Tumblr (irl or from other parts of the internet), please ask me before watching it.

Video link

As far as I know no other videos have been made, so this is fantastic — thank you!

(Heads-up that the link is, unsurprisingly, nsfw, and the video does have sound in the background but there is no speech.)

25 4 / 2014

Anonymous said: Hi, i just wanted to let you know that the link to the pdf form of the zine is currently broken D:

Thanks for the heads-up! Here’s a working link: Transcending Anatomy (pdf)

For the record, the pdf of Transcending Anatomy has been uploaded to a few different online zine libraries over the years and most them are no longer functional, so there are many dead links floating around. If anyone knows of stable sites that would be good places to upload a copy of the zine — particularly sites with a queer/trans focus — please let me know.

24 3 / 2014

Anonymous said: Hi I want to quote your zine "transcending Anatomy" in something I am writing and so wanted to credit you - but don't see your name anywhere. Do you prefer to be anonymous? I thank you so much for your work. All good wishes, Caffyn Jesse

I prefer for the zine to be credited just as Transcending Anatomy, but if you need to cite a specific individual as the creator, you can use the name Eli Aaron. Thanks!

03 3 / 2014

transfeminism:

Sylvia Rivera is one of my dyke heroes! The above pictures are of Sylvia Rivera with her wife Julia Murray. While people are quick to talk about Sylvia Rivera’s life, I never, ever hear anyone acknowledge that Sylvia was in a relationship with another women. It would seem that not all parts of her life are given equal respect and attention.

As a trans woman who loves women, it means something important to me personally to know that Sylvia Rivera was in a relationship with another woman. I’ve been made to feel isolated by others because I’m a trans woman who loves women. I’ve had the term “kai kai” disparagingly thrown in my direction on more than one occasion.

Trans women loving other women is treated as taboo by many in the “community.” There is some serious hostility directed at trans women who love women from some trans and queer people (I’m not even talking about gaystream LGB people). That is, some of those very same people who routinely evoke Sylvia Rivera’s name so often are the same people who take issue with trans women loving other women.

13 2 / 2014

love-mhz:

lisaquestions:

lisaquestions:

Is this Redefining Realness?

I actually checked the original post and the tags are #Janet Mock #Redefining Realness #redefiningrealness 
So yeah, it is.

Here is the page on google books FWIW.

[The image is a photograph of a page from a book. The text reads:
"Gender and gender identity, sex and sexuality, are spheres of self-discovery that overlap and relate but are not one and the same. Each and every one of us has a sexual orientation and a gender identity. Simply put, our sexual orientation has to do with whom we get into bed with, while our gender identity has to do with whom we get into bed as. A trans person can be straight, gay, bisexual, etc.; a cis gay, lesbian, or heterosexual person can conform to expected gender norms or not; and a woman can have a penis and a man can have a vagina. There is no formula when it comes to gender and sexuality. Yet it is often only people whose gender identity and/or sexual orientation negates society’s heteronormative and cisnormative standards who are targets of stigma, discrimination, and violence. I wish that instead of investing in these hierarchies of what’s right and who’s wrong, what’s authentic and who’s not, and ranking people according to these rigid standards that ignore diversity in our genders and sexualities, we gave people freedom and resources to define, determine, and declare who they are."]

love-mhz:

lisaquestions:

lisaquestions:

Is this Redefining Realness?

I actually checked the original post and the tags are #Janet Mock #Redefining Realness #redefiningrealness 

So yeah, it is.

Here is the page on google books FWIW.

[The image is a photograph of a page from a book. The text reads:

"Gender and gender identity, sex and sexuality, are spheres of self-discovery that overlap and relate but are not one and the same. Each and every one of us has a sexual orientation and a gender identity. Simply put, our sexual orientation has to do with whom we get into bed with, while our gender identity has to do with whom we get into bed as. A trans person can be straight, gay, bisexual, etc.; a cis gay, lesbian, or heterosexual person can conform to expected gender norms or not; and a woman can have a penis and a man can have a vagina. There is no formula when it comes to gender and sexuality. Yet it is often only people whose gender identity and/or sexual orientation negates society’s heteronormative and cisnormative standards who are targets of stigma, discrimination, and violence. I wish that instead of investing in these hierarchies of what’s right and who’s wrong, what’s authentic and who’s not, and ranking people according to these rigid standards that ignore diversity in our genders and sexualities, we gave people freedom and resources to define, determine, and declare who they are."]

(Source: oldfilmsflicker)

12 2 / 2014

rambleonamazon:

I literally drew this entire comic just for that last panel…

Happy Valentines Day, everyone!

(via sbearbergman)

10 2 / 2014

allycookies:

Cis people - pansexuality is not defined as “men, women, and trans people”. Trans people are not an inherently separate gender category. If you really want to describe your sexuality in this way, I recommend “men, women, and nonbinary people”. Or, you could just say “all people”. Separating binary trans people from binary cis people is transphobic and gross and just don’t do it.

(via thesexosaurus)